Where is your focus? For many of my clients, they have an easier time identifying their negative traits than they do their positive traits. Why are we fixated on negativity and constantly comparing ourselves to others? Maybe it has to do with our media exposure and the fixation on finding someone worse off than ourselves. Misery loves company and we don’t have to look very far to find it, especially these days. We can all share our woes about the economic downturn and the impact on our lives with very little effort. It certainly is scary to think about where the economy is going and painful to deal with the impact. Maybe it’s time to shift our focus from possessions to people. We’ve been busy accumulating things and neglecting relationships in the process. During this holiday season make a decision to focus on nurturing relationships and friendships. Focus on what you have control over versus what is out of your control. Be thankful for the people in your life and the connections you’ve made. If you have limited connections, then make that your focus. Our family can gain more from our presence than from our presents. And lastly, generate that list of what you have instead of what you have lost and share it with the people you love.