How many of us are consumed by the distractions of everyday life? We are so busy that we hardly ever take time to reflect, pause, and even breathe. Life moves at such a quick pace that we don’t pay much attention to what’s passing us by until it’s already gone. Think relationships! How much time do you spend reflecting on your relationships? Have you asked the question, “how are we doing?” It’s time to start asking and stop assuming. I witness it daily in my practice, marriages up in flames with nobody paying attention until it’s too late. Some of us have become very good at ignoring problems. Similar to turning up the radio in your car to drown out the clanking noise. It’s common to be consumed with life’s stressors and demands without noticing that certain areas of your life are suffering. Focus off things, activities, and tasks, and focus on people. Ask the questions and accept the answers. Make a decision to save your marriage before it’s too late. Take a class, read a book, join a group, get counseling, whatever it takes to salvage the relationship. Start by changing yourself and stop trying to change your partner; it never works. Life can be crazy if we allow ourselves to get caught up in the turmoil and neglect each other. Remember that life begins and ends with relationships.