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Are you in a marriage with a nagging or demanding wife? Â Do you ever feel emasculated or disrespected by her cutting comments? Â Many men find themselves in this type of relationship and have a hard time finding a way out. Â In my practice I work with men who struggle with this dilemma all the time. Â On the one hand they want to end the marriage, but they also realize the emotional and family consequences tied to this decision. Â In some cases they married controlling, domineering, and demanding women because they do not possess those traits, but admire them in others. Â Other times these men have low self-esteem, avoid conflict, and prefer to relinquish control to their partner. Â Many are people pleasers and go to great lengths to make everyone else happy but themselves. Â Maybe they grew up in a similar family dynamic with their mother being the matriarch and their father being the accommodating, passive and easygoing person. Â Over time these men build up a tremendous amount of anger and resentment which eventually results in rebellion/self-destruction or some form of lashing out. Â Of course the wife would benefit from understanding her role in this dysfunctional relationship since she plays a major role. Â Her need for power, control, and domination may relate to her own fears and insecurities from the past. Â She also may have issues with men from her past and displace the negative emotions on to her husband. Â Next week I will cover ways to deal with this dynamic in marriage and reach a balance of power and control.